another year is ending and I want you to know that it is okay if you:
have not healed from the things that happened/did not happen from six months ago. just because the year is ending it does not mean your grief is too.
don’t have any “fun” NYE plans to ring in the new year. this life is yours to live across days and months and years, and you can celebrate days other than the ones heavily marketed and shoved down your throat to shroud you in severe FOMO.
have no resolutions or goals for 2024 laid out in elaborate lists or shared on social media or with your friends. you are braving through this life trying to do your best every day and hold the fort and so of course you know, deep down you know what is needed from you for you going forward and of course you are going to work in that direction. good luck love.
have not become a “better” version of yourself by any of the tangible or conventional measures. that kind of bettering is mostly to serve others, not yourself.
are not happy with yourself/your life as it is now. you’re a work-in-progress, remember? and if you’re progressing in a direction you do not like, then it’s time to change the blueprints and the strategy.
take time off social media around this time to protect your mental health and whatever little joy you have managed to keep.
don’t want to spend too much time reflecting on how this past year went and doing various forms of 2023-wrapped. again, it’s your life. you can also revisit this year in memories and pictures and feelings whenever you’d like. it’s not like you don’t still visit 2012, 2017, and 2022, right?
feel disconnected from your friends, family, lover. I know this is “ideally” a time to be celebrated with your loved ones. but life is not ideal, is it? it’s just life. and if right now you are not feeling the love, the joy, or just don’t have the headspace or social energy to engage , that’s alright.
are finding comfort in simpler things like a TV show from the 90s or that book you first read at sixteen or that slice of strawberry cake or a random post like this you come across.
don’t feel hopeful, encouraged, or excited for 2024. given everything that’s happened in the last couple of years, on the macro and micro level, it’s only natural for you to feel weary as well as wary. when the good things happen, when the healing happens, when things begin working in your favour over time, you will automatically feel all those things. it’s okay if until then you choose to be neutral.
saying “i wouldn’t be a good parent” is a morally neutral statement and i’m sick of whenever i say it people replying “noo no you’d be a GREAT mother i know you would!!!” like… no! being a good parent requires a certain set of skills and traits and i know that i don’t have them and that’s a good thing!!! i think people should figure out if they would be good parents BEFORE having kids and maybe we’d have less shitty parents in the world! fuck!
